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The Psychology of Why Your Kindness Can Turn Into Disrespect
You might have noticed that the more you give, the less people seem to care. The more patient you are, the more they push your limits. Many people think kindness means you’re weak. They believe being nice means you won’t stand up for yourself. But that’s not true. Kindness is not weakness. Love is not foolish.…
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How To Truly Motivate Yourself To Do Anything
Your brain doesn’t like being told things it doesn’t believe, and it especially doesn’t like being commanded to do something. When you try to force motivation through declarations, your words often just bounce right off. There’s a better way that actually works with how your brain naturally operates. In 2010, researchers ran an important study.…
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The Psychology of Guilt Corrects, Shame Withdraws: Why This Distinction Changes Everything
These aren’t just different ways of thinking—they activate completely different neural pathways with measurably different effects on your cognitive functioning. Guilt activates your anterior cingulate cortex, the brain region responsible for error detection, conflict monitoring, and course correction. This is your brain’s quality control center.
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The Unexpected Power of What We Say: A Reflection on “Hung by the Tongue”
Some books arrive precisely when you need them most. Hung by the Tongue by Francis P. Martin was one of those books for me—unexpected, unplanned, yet exactly what I needed to hear back in the early 1990’s. Here are 10 Life-Changing Principles from “Hung by the Tongue.”
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Newsletter: A College Degree Might Cost More Than It’s Worth
You and a classmate leave high school with the same chances. The choices you make next can change your financial path for decades. One person follows the usual route and takes student loans for a four-year degree. The other starts working, saves, and invests instead.
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Why Rejection Feels Like Physical Pain And What You Can Do About It
If you dealt with rejection or neglect growing up (and let’s be real, most of us did in some form), your brain learned to stay on high alert. Made sense back then. Now? Not so much, but your brain doesn’t always get that memo.
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The Overactive Mind as a Parasite or False Self
You are living in a mental simulation while your actual life passes by. When you learn to step back from this voice, you don’t just feel different. Your entire experience of reality changes, and you gain access to a type of power that most people never find.
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How Reading Strategy Affects Comprehension
Sustained focus on fewer works produces greater comprehension than scattered attention across many sources. This principle applies to both fiction and non-fiction literature.
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This Psychological Trick Will Change How You Speak and Write Forever
Some books keep you awake all night, turning pages with exciting expectations and zeal to find out what’s going to happen next, or how the loop closes. Others make your eyelids heavy after just a few paragraphs. The secret behind this difference lies in a fascinating psychological principle that smart authors use to create stories…